Showing posts with label underwear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label underwear. Show all posts

Monday, January 13, 2014

It's A Big Deal

A couple of months ago I was out at Target with Kingsley and being unfamiliar with the store, we wound up in the underwear aisle. Kingsley, naturally, started screaming and cheering the fact that there was Thomas the Train... underwear. My heart squeezed. I turned him quickly and got out of that aisle. Fast.

Underwear is like the Holy Grail in our world. Social continence - the ability to stay clean all day long, though with non-traditional methods - is a huge quest. The very very bottom of the spinal cord is the part that controls continence, so nearly everyone living with SB has to work to achieve social continence in some form or another.

I have probably said far too much about our quest for social continence ;) It has been a battle for about a year and a half now.  I have been googling and googling and emailing and messaging and reading and consulting and trying and trying and trying again.

And then this weekend, Kingsley wore underwear all day. And all day today.

Underwear. 

All. Day. 

Kingsley. 

Do you know how long I've waited for this day? It was pretty darn exciting. 

I kind of feel a teenie bit like we are cheating on the underwear thing. While our #2 issues have been completely, totally resolved (ALLELUIA!!!), the brand new #1 issue is still there. I can't figure it out, but as the timing was exactly when we figured out #2, it must be related. So, anyway, to address that business, I got Kinger what I call men's maxi pads. They're Gentlemen's Incontinence Pads, but let's be real - they're blue and shaped like a pear instead of an infinity loop. Whatever you want to call them, they are significantly cheaper than diapers. Although, it was more awkward buying them than when I stock up on KY (which is not a wink wink thing, it's for Kingsley and I do buy about 10 tubes at a time and get a lot of averted eyes by cashiers). 

So, with one of those guys hidden in Kinger's Toy Story unders justincase, he is good to go! 

He is still going to have to wear a diaper at night for the foreseeable future until we get that stuff worked out.  He doesn't actually care what he's wearing or even notice. I mean, other than the big underpants parties we had all weekend. ;) 


However.

As thrilling as this is, it is not a permanent fix. The things we are doing now, the way we do them, Kingsley cannot be independent. It is different for every person, there are so many relevant factors - gender, leg/body functioning, age, continence issues... but we have come to the conclusion that for Kingsley to be both continent and independent, surgery is his best (and likely only) option. This has not been an easy decision, despite my previous thoughts on it. The procedure(s) we are investigating are far more invasive and scary than we first thought. The recovery will be long and unpleasant. The risk of complications are real. But, we have yet to find someone who regrets having the procedure done. The only regret we have heard is the regret that it wasn't done sooner, when they were younger. I don't know when we will be having it done, but the decision has been made. The next chapter will begin. 
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